Emotional Expressiveness

How well do the leaders in your organization express their emotions? What about you? Do you appropriately articulate your feelings?

While research has demonstrated a strong link among excitement, commitment and business results, many leaders stumble at emotional expressiveness. They hesitate to express both positive and negative emotions in an effort to maintain credibility, authority and gravitas. Consequently, they're losing one of the best tools for achieving impact.

Emotional Intelligence

"The role of emotional maturity in leadership is crucial." ~ Kathy Lubar and Belle Linda Halpern, Leadership Presence: Dramatic Techniques to Reach Out, Motivate and Inspire(Penguin Group, USA, 2004)

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and manage your - and others' - moods and emotions.

Every message has an emotional component, so leaders must learn to articulate and express their feelings. Mastering this objective inspires your team in five essential domains

1.#0160; Developing collective goals
2.#0160; Instilling an appreciation of work's importance
3.#0160; Generating and maintaining enthusiasm, confidence, optimism, cooperation and trust
4.#0160; Encouraging flexibility in decision-making and change management
5.#0160; Establishing and maintaining a meaningful organizational identity

Leaders create authentic relationships by expressing interest in their people and showing empathy. They must also learn to express their emotions publicly.

Myths about Emotions

When leaders communicate, they often focus on message clarity and overlook its important emotional component. To generate excitement, they need to master their emotional expressiveness.

But most leaders demonstrate resistance. They cling to long-standing assumptions that showing emotions:

• Is unbecoming
• Undermines authority
• Reveals a lack of control
• Conveys irrationality
• Indicates weakness and vulnerability
• Isn't masculine (and is, therefore, too feminine)

Men in leadership positions don't want to come across as dictatorial, angry or moody. Their female counterparts avoid showing emotions because they believe it plays into stereotypes about women being high-strung.

Does Your Head Overrule Your Heart?

In business, we're highly respected for our sharp minds, to the extent that we frequently squelch our emotional voices.

Peter Bregman addresses this issue in "Don't Let Your Head Attack Your Heart," a July 2014 Harvard Business Reviewblog post:

"We are trained and rewarded, in schools and in organizations, to lead with a fast, witty and critical mind. And it serves us well. The mind can be logical, clear, incisive and powerful. It perceives, positions, politics and protects. One of its many talents is to defend us from emotional vulnerability, which it does, at times, with jokes and quick repartee.

The heart, on the other hand, has no comebacks, no quips. Gentle, slow and unprotected, an open heart is easily attacked, especially by a frightened mind. And feelings scare the mind."

It's no wonder that leaders become entrenched in a comfort zone of data, facts and ideas. But failure to show emotions makes leaders far less effective. Without recognizing our feelings, our ability to make wise decisions is impaired.

3 Basic Techniques

Lubar and Halpern offer three guidelines for developing expressiveness that inspires others, influences change and drives business results.

1. Generate Excitement

Creating excitement begins with showing enthusiasm and fighting the urge to suppress it. You'll deepen your bond with others by revealing your humanity and vulnerability.

Anger, frustration and pain, when properly expressed, also bring us closer to one another. Never forget, however, that expressing emotion has a powerful effect, so think before you emote. #0160;

2. Put Nonverbal Cues to Work

While the words you choose play an important role in your message's emotional impact, research tells us that facial and body cues may be even more significant.

#0160;Albert Mehrabian, a professor emeritus of psychology at UCLA, conducted studies that revealed:

• Words account for only 7% of a speaker's impact.
• Vocal tone is responsible for 38%.
• Body language trumps them both at an astounding 55%.

Despite these game-changing findings, most of us spend 99% of our time on crafting language when planning a presentation - and a mere 1% on how we're going to convey our message.

You lose credibility when your face and body send different messages. You may not even be aware of your "tics": unconscious movements or gestures that are out of sync with how you truly feel.

Speak from your core values to achieve alignment. If you're struggling, consider hiring an experienced executive coach. The challenge is too important to ignore. Your overall leadership presence ultimately determines whether you're perceived as a strong candidate for promotion.

3. Find and Express a Passionate Purpose

Leaders generally try to explain or relay information. This very act lacks energy, passion and/or tension. Instead of using dry, colorless verbs to convey your point, substitute action words that carry emotional intensity.

For example, don't "make an announcement to explain upcoming changes." Instead, "challenge people to make some adjustments" or "overcome obstacles to success." Focus on what truly matters: your passionate purpose.

Connect with your inner passions by asking yourself:

• What am I fighting for?
• What do others want?
• What are the obstacles?

Use your answers to choose verbs that capture your passionate purpose.

Never forget that every human interaction - from meetings and presentations to memos and face-to-face conversations - involves needs and desires, real or potential conflicts. These pivotal moments are opportunities to change minds and influence behavior. Your goal is to identify the desired change or problem to be overcome and invest it with energy and passion.

You can develop the qualities of positive leadership by working with a professional coach. The investment is well worth the reward: your ability to influence the future, your career and your personal-development capabilities.

Are you working in a company where executive coaches provide leadership development to help leaders put positive leadership into action? Does your organization provide executive coaching for leaders who need to be more conscious, and tap into the intrinsic motivation of followers? Positive leaders tap into their emotional intelligence and social intelligence skills to create a more fulfilling future.

One of the most powerful questions you can ask yourself is "Am I a positive leader who inspires individuals and organizations to achieve their highest potential, flourish at work, experience elevating energy and achieve levels of effectiveness difficult to attain otherwise?" Emotionally intelligent and socially intelligent organizations provide executive coaching to help leaders develop more positive teams.

Working with a seasoned executive coach and leadership consultant trained in emotional intelligence and incorporating assessments such as the Bar-On EQ-I, CPI 260 and Denison Culture Survey can help leaders nurture mindful conversations in the workplace. You can become an inspiring leader who models emotional intelligence and social intelligence, and who inspires people to become fully engaged with the vision, mission and strategy of your company or law firm.

Working Resources is a San Francisco Bay Area Executive Coaching Firm Helping Innovative Companies and Law Firms Assess, Select, Coach, Engage#0160;and Retain Emotionally Intelligent Leaders; Executive Coaching; Leadership Development; Performance-Based Interviewing; Competency Modeling; Succession Management; Culture Change; Career Coaching and Leadership Retreats

...About Dr. Maynard Brusman

Dr. Maynard Brusman

Consulting Psychologist and Executive Coach|
Trusted Advisor to Executive Leadership Teams
Mindfulness amp; Emotional Intelligence Workplace Expert

Dr. Maynard Brusman is a consulting psychologist and executive coach. He is the president of Working Resources, a leadership consulting and executive coaching firm. We specialize in helping San Francisco Bay Area companies select and develop emotionally intelligent leaders.#0160; Maynard is a highly sought-after speaker and workshop leader. He facilitates leadership retreats in Northern California and Costa Rica. The Society for Advancement of Consulting (SAC) awarded Dr. Maynard Brusman quot;Board Approvedquot; designations in the specialties of Executive Coaching and Leadership Development.

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