In the search for true love via the virtual world, nothing stresses people out as much as creating the online dating profile!

Have you finally taken the plunge and decided to try online dating? You’ve narrowed down one or two sites that your friends have recommended but now you have to write your online profile. Or you have had your dating profile up for a while and have not seen much action lately.

Perhaps it is time for you to reevaluate your profile and see if you can make improvements to attract better candidates. What if writing is not your forte? Or if you feel insecure about how to present yourself to others? How much do you share and what shouldn’t you share?

Writing your dating profiles may seem like a lot, but it shouldn’t scare you off of online dating! Over 50 % of married couples in the US report meeting their spouse online. So if you want to find lasting love, it’s a resource you don’t want to give up on!

1. Present the most authentic you!

   Show your potential dates the real you. If you put down stuff that you are not, you will attract the wrong people and eventually it will come out, causing big relationship issues down the line. For example, if you can’t stand cats but say you like animals, then what will you do if your date has a cat? My philosophy is what you put out there is what you will attract. Just like an ad in a magazine – if a company advertises a car with a powerful engine, it will attract people who want that in a car.

   So it is best to be honest and upfront with your dating profile. Describe what you need and want in a relationship. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want (as long as it is socially appropriate!). If you want marriage and a family – then put that down in your profile. You will attract those who want the same things as you, and turn away those who would be scared by that comment—that’s a good thing! Just be careful to avoid demanding language like “Must have…” or “Must/can not…”. Keep your tone kind and inviting.

2. Tell your audience what’s unique about you!

   What sets you apart from the next guy or gal? What is special about you? Do you have any special talents? You want someone who appreciates that about you. If you have an artistic bent, or you sing in a choir, describe that! If you run marathons or help out with volunteer activities, put that down. This will set you apart from all the other dating profiles out there and can help you find lasting love.

3. Take your reader into your experiences with you!

   I believe in bringing the reader into the experiences that you truly value. Don’t just superficially mention you like running through the park, but send out an invitation for them to join you. For instance, one of my clients described how he loves to jog in a city park in the fall when the air is crisp and the leaves are multi-tonal. Doesn’t this description have a “come join me” feeling?

   Don’t just mention that you like concerts and movies in your dating profile. Describe what kind of concerts you prefer and the types of movies you love. Including this type of detail will help answer relationship questions for those looking at your profile.

4. Describe what’s truly important to you!

   What gets you up in the morning? What truly motivates you in life? One of my clients truly values giving of herself to the community. She is an avid volunteer. I’m sure she wants to attract someone who also values giving to the community as well. When you get beyond the superficial, you will attract those who say, “This person seems to be the kind of person I want to meet!”

   This is a good time to think about your core values and life goals. Sharing these openly will attract like-minded people.

5. Invest in hiring a professional for the all-important photo!

   We live in a visual society and yes, we do judge a book by its cover! Studies have shown that the photo is the key to whether a person decides to check out your dating profile or not. If you are not sure how you come across in the photo, then ask a friend or co-worker for their opinion. I request my clients to get a professional photo 95% of the time.  Make sure the photo is a current one of you, within a year or two!

   Some online dating sites do provide you with a list of online dating photographers in your area who specialize in dating profile photos. As an added bonus, you will have a photo of yourself to give to your family members as a holiday gift!

Having better online dating success means having the best dating profile! And it’s really not that hard.

By following these dating profile tips, you will see an improvement in the type of people who are contacting you, as well as the responses you are getting from those you are contacting. And if you need further assistance in your online dating journey, consider enlisting help from an online dating coach.

I’ve helped hundreds of singles find lasting love and I can help you too! Go to www.talkwithcoachamy.com and set up a time for your complimentary “Meet Your Mate Strategy Session”. Let’s explore how I can best support you in your search for true love.

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