Affirmations for Caregivers
Affirmations for caregivers can be used to maintain a positive mindset amid what might seem to be insurmountable challenges. When daily struggles take over, the mind attempts to make sense of chaos. Toxic relationships and situations take a toll on a caregiver’s health and well-being.
Caregivers can change external situations by shifting the mind’s focus to internal thoughts and affirmative statements. Affirmations for caregivers can connect inner thoughts with external experiences.
Self-confidence and self-worth come from within. Caregivers do not need praise or appreciation from others to know that they are doing a good job.
If you are new to affirmations, you may not know what they are or how they work. Or maybe you have tried using affirmations and gave up because of a lack of results. If so, it’s possible that there was a disconnect between your internal thoughts and everyday actions.
Affirmations are like prayers or meditations. They are actions rooted in faith that can bring a sense of calm and peace to a life of uncertainty. Instead of
allowing stress to be your constant companion, think differently.
In this article, you will learn:
- How to define an affirmation
- Tips to create the right affirmations
- How to make affirmations work
- Three affirmations for caregivers
- How to combine affirmations with daily actions to get results
What is an Affirmation
An affirmation is a statement that confirms or reinforces a truth or belief to move thoughts and actions in a positive direction. The critical part of this definition is
used to move thoughts and actions in a positive direction.Creating the right affirmation can be a little tricky. The tricky part is confirming belief in the affirmation and that the statement is true and achievable.
If belief is not one hundred percent, then the affirmation can bring the truth or belief into reality by saying the words and acting on the affirmation every day.
It is imperative to ensure there is no huge gap between today’s reality and the affirmation. If a significant gap exists, then the affirmation may not be possible.
Small steps to resolve challenges can deliver more significant and long-lasting change.
For example, you may lack musical talents, but your affirmation is to play the violin with the National Symphony Orchestra. Or maybe you don’t run, but your affirmation is to win a Gold Medal in the 800-meter race at the Olympics. In either case, a more practical affirmation may be about daily practice to qualify for playing in a local orchestra or participating and winning in local races.
Do Affirmations Work?
The result of using affirmations depends on the values and beliefs of the person stating them. Another component is what the person stating the affirmation is willing to do to make the affirmation true.
Affirmations, prayers, and meditations are not magic. They don’t work without persistence and daily effort to bring one’s inner and external world together.
When creating affirmations, it is best to be specific and clearly understand your thought patterns. For example, if you ask for abundance and your thoughts are negative, you may receive an abundance of problems and unpleasant circumstances.
Thoughts create, which is why there must be a belief in the affirmation and actions to back up the belief.
Affirmation #1 for caregivers
The first example of an affirmation for caregivers is “I release judgment and focus on creating the change I want to see in myself.”
Often, a judgment of others emanates from self-criticism. For example, if a person is conscious about their weight or appearance, they may comment on other people’s weight or appearance.
Other examples of judgment statements for caregivers can be:
To work through judgment-oriented statements one can identify if they are subjective or objective.
- Subjective means based on opinions, feelings, and emotions.
- Objective relates to verifiable facts and evidence.
Beliefs About Stubborn Parents
So let’s look at the statement that Mom and Dad are stubborn. Stubborn in whose definition? Your definition or theirs?
Your aging parents believe that their actions to remain independent—although not founded on facts or a discussion of potential consequences—are reasonable.
Adult children feel their observations are accurate because Mom and Dad refuse to do what the children want.
In this situation, both sides feel that they are right. A stalemate occurs with neither side giving in.
Release Judgment
In this case, the affirmation for caregivers, “I release judgment and focus on creating the change I want to see in myself,” may help caregivers be less judgmental of parents and take an interest in understanding why they feel the way they do.
Judgment involves having opinions about something or someone—and usually not in a good way. When we don’t like someone or disagree with thoughts or actions, there can be a clash of values.
Value clashes can result in the way one treats other people. It is human nature to want to be around people with similar beliefs and habits.
Being around people with different beliefs, habits, or values can require tolerance and effort to be in relationships with different people. It may mean releasing and blessing people who think differently. It may mean remaining in a relationship with another person and looking at what needs to change within.
For some caregivers who are burned out or time-pressured, dealing with negative feelings about others can be too overwhelming.
Instead, the caregiver may eliminate people from their life because this is the easiest path. However, these eliminated people may be missed later when the caregiver has the time to reflect and revisit life situations.
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While family relationships around caregiving can be challenging, it can be difficult to maintain relationships with difficult aging parents and siblings who take no interest in caregiving.
Family relationships are affected by a need for care. Burning bridges in a relationship may feel good initially, but it is not a long-term strategy. Avoiding discussions about differences can make creating and maintaining healthy relationships with family members and friends more difficult.
Feeling negative emotions is an opportunity for introspection. Looking inward to determine the source of a feeling can be a positive exercise.
Maintaining family relationships is why initiating family conversations about care and caregiving responsibilities. No detail is too small to discuss, even though the discussions may be uncomfortable.
Discussions and reviews of expectations are critical in family care situations. This can help family caregivers consider thoughts, habits, or actions for change. Moreover, looking at a care situation can help caregivers design specific affirmations.
The Three Stages of Affirmations
Affirmations for caregivers may be a path to doing inner work to change non-productive beliefs or habits. An affirmation can be a way to jump-start actions toward a more positive mindset and create progress toward goals.
However, stating an affirmation each day does not bring it into reality. There are stages to move through when affirming desired situations.
1 Recognize a desire to change a habit, belief, or act by releasing what might be holding you back
This can be challenging for caregivers because of the expectations of aging parents or other family members. For example,
- Aging parents may expect a son or daughter to care for them and fulfill their every need.
- Siblings may expect a brother or sister to be the caregiver for aging parents regardless of the effects on this person’s life.
- Other family members, like aunts and uncles, may have expectations about the caregiver’s duty and responsibility.
- Spouses can have care expectations of spouses.
Emotional, family, or peer pressure
The emotional pressure to meet others’ expectations can be a heavy burden for a caregiver.
Think of peer pressure—whether in school or at work. Peer or family pressure results from wanting to be liked, fit in with others or be part of a family or group.
If you were easily influenced by peer pressure in school and worried about being included or excluded, you may be more susceptible to peer pressure as an adult.
For caregivers, this can mean being in a family where expectations are never discussed or questioned.
2 Stage two of affirmations for caregivers is linking the affirmation statement with daily actions.
For example, if you feel stuck as a caregiver, you may do things that contradict your beliefs and values. Being stuck in any situation can help identify desired change.
Affirmation #2 for caregivers
A second affirmation for caregivers may be, “I am compassionate and patient with myself. I forgive everything and set healthy boundaries.”
What does compassion mean? Compassion means being aware of personal distress and the distress of others with a desire to help or improve a situation.
Compassion for caregivers can mean being radically honest about a family care situation and the actions that delivered the present situation.
This could mean aging parents with expectations they never discussed with children who they now expect to be their caregivers. A spouse may have expectations for the care by a spouse.
Discussions about caregivers’ realistic participation levels can be associated with compassion. These discussions may lead to caregivers setting boundaries about what they can or cannot do to preserve their health and well-being.
3 Stage three of affirmations for caregivers involves revising the affirmation statement or chunking it into two steps
Affirmations for caregivers can also relate to expectations. “I release the expectations of others and set boundaries to balance my life.” Affirmations can be good for caregivers who have become too involved or feel too burdened by the responsibilities and duties of caring for aging parents or other people.
Affirmation #3 for caregivers
To fulfill the belief and goal for an affirmation, link it to a daily action.
Initiate an expectation-setting conversation with your parents. Ask an aging parent or the person you care for about their expectations of you, your time, and your involvement. Then, share your expectations for the level at which you believe you can participate.
Example: Expectations around fall prevention for an elderly parent
Let’s return to the prior mention of parents being stubborn and link this to the potential of a severe fall. An expectation-setting conversation with parents may be may be,
“The doctor recommended physical therapy. The likelihood of a fall increases if you refuse to exercise to improve your physical strength or balance. A serious fall, like a hip fracture, means you may not be able to return to your home if you have a fall and are hospitalized. What are your plans?”
Depending on your parent’s response, you may advise that their expectations for your participation are impractical. Then, you can set a boundary and give them options to investigate.
Bringing Affirmations into Everyday Life
Affirmations for caregivers are not a quick fix. They do not change life overnight.
When caregivers bring internal thoughts and daily actions together, progress can be made toward more positive daily experiences and happier conditions. Challenges, obstacles, and frustrations are part of life.
If you want to change conditions in your life, consider what you value and work toward internal change to improve external conditions. All change begins on the inside.
You can improve your internal and external life one affirmation, one day at a time.
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