Being single on the Fourth of July, or any holiday can be challenging.  It seems like everyone else is celebrating with a significant other, their happy families, their dreams come true. Yet you may feel alone.

I remember when I had just turned 40 and had no man in my life during the Fourth of July holiday weekend. I am a woman who likes to have plans and be with people, so that was one of the hardest holidays for me.

At the time I owned my own boutique and, for lack of anything else to do, I actually went to the shop to work! But I decided not to give in to discouragement, grabbed my rollerblades, and, all by myself, went rollerblading! While it did help me feel a bit better, this was in Washington DC, so it was both hot and, being the nation’s capital on a National Holiday, crowded!

Holidays signify the passing of time. So being single on the Fourth of July, caused me like others, to yearn for someone with whom I could share this exciting, beautiful experience. Someone to cuddle up with while fireworks flared through the night sky. Yes, It is so easy to feel sorry for yourself when you’re surrounded by people in love. But there are ways to cope with being single this holiday while still having fun.

1. Connect with Loved Ones

   Reach out to friends or family members who care about you. A simple call or visit can make you feel connected and less isolated. Do you have someone you can share your frustrations with? Take a few minutes to do so, and then be resolved to mark this special occasion by enjoying their company!

   Attend or Host a Holiday Party

   Isolation only makes things worse.
   If no one is having a get-together, consider hosting one yourself. A casual barbecue or potluck can be a fun way to celebrate the holiday and feel less alone. If you have a friend with a good view of the fireworks, suggest a cocktail or dessert party at their place. Grab some sparklers (if legal in your area), bubbles or some silly string and embrace the fun of the day!

   Create New Traditions

   Traditions build meaningful connections with others and foster happiness and stability. It doesn’t have to be extravagant, just something that you would enjoy repeating at future events. Not only will it make your event more fun, but by creating a new tradition you are bolstering your existing relationships and creating memory stones to remind yourself that you are not as alone as you may sometimes feel.

2. Embrace Your “Independence”

   Holidays can be an excellent time to appreciate your independence. Especially if you’re single on the Fourth of July! Take this opportunity to do something you genuinely enjoy, without having to compromise or cater to someone. This can be incredibly liberating and can help you realize the joys of being single.

   Practice Self Car

   While you’re being independent, take time to pamper yourself. Whether it’s a relaxing bath, getting out in nature, a massage, or treating yourself to your favorite meal, self-care can boost your mood and make the day feel special.

   Try a New Activity

   Holidays are an excellent time to try something new! Have a hobby you’ve always wanted to try or a skill you have been longing to learn? There are classes for everything from cooking, dancing, and crafting to woodworking, robotics, and auto mechanics. There is someone, teaching something, for everyone!  

   Independence doesn’t mean you have to be alone- trying new activities can be an exciting way to meet new people. I recommend checking out MeetUp and seeing what sort of activities might be happening in your area. Currently, I am the host of 13 MeetUp groups across the US, and it’s always interesting to see what new activities the singles in our groups are organizing. You can check them out here: https://www.meetup.com/pro/dmv-seriously-searching-singles-meetup-network/.

   Reflection & Goal Setting

   This could be a great time for self-reflection on your personal. Consider your personal achievements, count your blessings, and acknowledge what you can be grateful for. Self-reflection and gratefulness help to shift your focus from what you lack to what you have. And it’s the best perspective to start from when setting new personal goals. Whether it’s related to fitness, career, hobbies, or even love, having something to work towards can be motivating and exciting. Take my free Motivated to Marry Quiz to see how ready you are for a new relationship.

3. Keep Busy

   Keeping yourself occupied can prevent feelings of loneliness from creeping in. Plan your day with various activities, from physical exercise like a morning run or a yoga session to catching up on a book on your TBR list. Staying busy helps you focus on the positive aspects of the day rather than what you might be missing. Here are some final ideas on how to keep busy if you’re alone and single on the Fourth of July.

   Take a Trip

   Sometimes, a change of scenery is so refreshing. Plan a day trip to a nearby town or city with interesting festivities. Many places have parades, fairs, and special events for the Fourth of July holiday, providing plenty of opportunities to explore and have fun. Or, if you can take more time, check into last-minute deals on singles travel groups for the holiday weekend.

   Volunteer

   Helping others can provide a sense of purpose and community, which in turn, may help you feel less down about being single on the Fourth of July. Look for local volunteer opportunities, such as helping at a community event or participating in a charity run. You’ll keep busy, meet new people, and make a positive impact in your community.

   Attend a Public Event

   Many cities host parades, concerts, and fireworks shows. Check out your local event listings and choose something that interests you. Maybe grab some other single friends to join you!

   Boat Cruise

   Go on a boat cruise by yourself or with a group to view the fireworks on the water. Many companies offer special Fourth of July cruises that include dinner, drinks, and a spectacular view of the fireworks. It’s a unique and memorable way to spend the holiday.

   Explore Cultural Activities

   Visit a museum, attend a local theater performance, or go to a cultural festival. Engaging in cultural activities enriches your mind and your soul, opening you up to new perspectives that may help you feel more hopeful and less alone.

   Plan a Binge-watch Event!

   If you’re a movie or pop-culture buff, plan a themed movie marathon with patriotic films or summer blockbusters, or binge-watch that show you never have time for. Invite a few friends over, or enjoy it solo with some popcorn and your favorite snacks. Don’t forget the snacks!

If you’re single this Fourth of July, don’t despair. Remember that this is a Holiday of Hope- a time we remember and celebrate that struggling new nation of underdogs and dreamers who overcame. You can too! Imagine celebrating next year with your true love partner.

Happy Fourth of July!