Past relationship mistakes and failures can be hard things to let go. Your past isyour past—there’s not much you, or anyone else, can do about it. What you can do, however, is choose to look to the future and begin building the life and relationships you truly want.

Perhaps you feel you’ve made some poor choices in life partners and people you’ve dated. Maybe you’re hanging on to some past emotional baggage.

I know I felt that way about my past marriage and some of the men I dated when I was single after my divorce.

While understanding why you made those choices will help you as you look to future goals, ruminating over the past will only keep you from moving forward. You’ve got to take the lesson to be learned from it and leave the rest behind!

Looking to the future means assessing your “Relationship Roadblocks“.

In my relationship coaching, I help my clients move forward with an exercise called Relationship Roadblocks.

We look at your past relationships to figure out what worked and what didn’t. This will help you gain greater awareness about yourself and your choices. Then as we dig deeper, it will become crystal clear what you truly need in a relationship for it to go the distance.

Self-awareness is a powerful tool when looking to the future. Understanding what worked and what didn’t in past relationships is like holding a mirror up to your emotional patterns. This exercise provides a safe space to acknowledge past pain, celebrate the lessons you’ve learned, and release any resentment. Through guided coaching, my clients identify triggers that might have held them back and create actionable strategies to move forward.

You’re not just looking to the future; you’re building it step by step.

This exercise is not meant to have you dwell in the past. And it’s not therapy. It’s coaching! This is where you’ll see that you have a choice about how you think about your past relationships.

For example, if you’ve been stuck in a cycle of choosing unavailable partners, we’ll explore how to break free from this pattern. Shifting your mindset is critical. Instead of focusing on ‘what ifs,’ you’ll start focusing on ‘what’s next.’ This change is transformative for my clients and leads to a sense of empowerment and anticipation.

Designing your future Relationship Blueprint.

My goal is to help my clients design a better blueprint for attracting a life partner. It’s an integral part of relationship readiness whether it’s your first time seriously searching for a life partner, or you’ve been divorced or widowed.

Looking to the future means defining your goals with clarity. Who is the ideal partner for the next chapter of your life? What values matter most to you now? These are the questions we explore in-depth. By focusing on your ideal future rather than past disappointments, you’ll start to attract a partner who complements your growth and shares your vision.

When you shift your “dating radar” you’ll see that you’ll be meeting better quality people for you. The kind of people who share your life vision, goals, and key relationship values.

When my clients meet the right person, it just “clicks”! They recognize this person sooner rather than later and move more confidently to an exclusive relationship more quickly.

Clients often tell me how liberating it feels to look to the future when they finally understand their core values and boundaries.

This newfound awareness speeds up the process of finding meaningful connections. It’s not magic—it’s clarity combined with intentional effort.

Just like Ray, widowed for 2 years in his late 50s, who was attracting women who didn’t have time for him. He was always trying to accommodate them and was disappointed. After coaching, he learned how to specifically communicate his needs and life vision to a potential partner.

He met his life partner online and it was an immediate connection. They’re perfect for one another and after spending the holidays with one another’s families, they got engaged. Ray said that our coaching was instrumental to him meeting her. And that I kept encouraging him to keep going after a couple of disappointing “almost” relationships.

Another client, Lisa, had a similar breakthrough. She struggled with self-doubt after years of unsuccessful dating but committed to the coaching process. By focusing on her own self-worth and refining her relationship goals, Lisa met someone who shared her passion for travel and family. They are now planning their future together and couldn’t be happier.

Your future is waiting!

I’d love to help you meet that right person this year! The love you’ve always dreamed of is closer than you think when you take proactive steps to heal, grow, and open your heart to new possibilities. Reach out and let’s look to the future together!

How do you even know if you’re ready for lasting love? It’s hard to look to the future if you’re not even sure where you stand today. To find out your readiness for love, take my FREE “Are You Ready to Meet Your Mate” Quiz and find out! Go to https://motivatedtomarry.lpages.co/take-the-mtm-quiz/ today!